Interpreter of Maladies
Tuesday, May 10, 2005
weddings and engagementsThis seems to be the ultimate wedding season of all times. Everyone is seemilgy getting married. Not a week passes by when I don't hear news of people getting engaged and marrying. Not that I resent it, but isn't it too early ? It's been only two years since we left college-kids aged 21-22-and the next I hear is X is getting married in October and Y is getting engaged in August. As a friend bluntly puts, maybe I don't want to get over my nostalgia and my attachment with the past. I know of X and Y as easygoing, independent chaps. People I knew so well and had so much fun with, in college. The thought of these boys growing up and becoming men who are matured enough to get married in two years-is a little scary. Girlfriends with whom I shared a large part of my college life with; girls who were as kiddish as I was; who never mentioned marriage in any as-near-as-can-be future -are getting married and are apparently overjoyed and relieved with the event. Is everything changing and am I also supposed to grow up and leave old leaves behind and move on to the new saplings. Huh!! Can't say whether I can actually do that. I went to this wedding sometime back and all I wanted then was to shake my friends' hand and twist it the way we used to do back in college, to slap her on her back and run away; but then I am apparently supposed to have grown up and matured and to have overcome my childish urges. Thinking of a similar future for myself, scares me equally, if not more. Thinking of settling down and stopping this scot-free existence is scary at this age. Not that this subject is never brought up, but I shy away whenever it comes up. I think I will avoid it till it dawns on me that its time to move on.
